(There are probably spoilers below. Or not, I wasn’t really paying attention.)

A few weeks ago, I posted something on Facebook about Blockers (which I believe is the full title, they just put the “cock” there on the poster. But the guy who took our tickets called it Cock Blockers). It was something to the effect of, “Where’s the think piece about why it is that when boys make a pact to lose their virginities it’s a fun quest but when girls do it they have to be prevented?”

I had only seen the trailer at that point but the sex pact reminded me immediately of American Pie and only one parent was in that one and he was only there for encouragement or guidance.

I got a bunch of comments, most of them agreeing with the sentiment of the status. One friend shared it and it was in that thread of comments where someone said, “They actually talk about that in the movie and it’s a pretty smart comedy.” I also found out that Blockers was directed by a woman, Kay Cannon, former writer for 30 Rock (she most certainly has many more credits but that one is all she needs from me). And that’s when I decided that I needed to see Blockers to see what it was all about.

R-rated comedies can be dicey. It seems like to make an R-rated comedy, it either has to be some smart indie comedy or some copy of Van Wilder. So, I wanted to see if Blockers truly was a bad premise for a crappy movie or if there might be something else going on with it.

Now having seen it, I have to go with the latter. It was just good (see also: Game Night). It’s hard to make an R rated comedy without treading the same territory or being juvenile. Now, technically, Blockers did both but I still found myself laughing. It was a movie about sex on prom night and there was a butt chugging scene. It doesn’t get more juvenile than that but I laughed. I think Kay Cannon’s direction just hit the right tone and was great.

I don’t want to review the movie, though. Well, here’s my review: see it. There, I reviewed it.

What I want to get to is my initial point about Blockers. What’s up with the premise? Is it sexist? (I recognize that I’m a man and that I’m no expert on sexism. I’m throwing this opinion out there anyway. That’s kind of what we white men do, throw our opinions out there. On, like, everything, whether anyone wants to here it or not.)

I’d have to say yes and no. So, the idea of the double standard between girls and boys trying to lose their virginities is literally expressed by a character in the movie. But the parents still stalk their daughters to try to prevent them from having sex. The self awareness doesn’t change the essential plot of the screenplay, which, incidentally, was written by two men.

Ultimately, though, I think it handled everything well. Unlike American Pie, only one of the girls succeed in her goal of having sex. But one of the girls got oral sex and another came out of the closet and kissed a really cool, caped girl at the end. This movie was also as much about parents as it was about kids. It explored a lot of different parent child relationships and what different parents want for their kids, and how hard it is to let them go.

Ike Berinholtz is great. Kathryn Newton, Geraldine Viswanathan, and Gideon Adlon were great. And Gary Cole should be required to do a cameo in every movie. Every single one.